Cosmopolitan Magazine

How to survive a long-distant relationship

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It's no secret that being in a long distance relationship can be Hard. Work. Being apart for long periods of time can easily break a relationship, but it's not impossible for a healthy relationship to thrive when you're living miles away from your partner.

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Attachment and you

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I've been lucky enough to work with @weareferly for a piece on attachment styles. It is a guided practice all around exploring your attachment styles within relationships. This practice is all about understanding the ways in which you interact and relate to others. It helps you unpick what your attachment style is and in turn you’ll be able to better manage and form healthier, happier and more pleasurable relationships.
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What to do when you’re not in the mood

It’s totally okay to not want sex, even with a long-term partner, but this doesn’t mean you can’t maintain intimacy. While we all need physical touch, since this stimulates the release of healing hormone oxytocin, we don't all need sex—yet if you stop having sex, all the other kinds of touching might stop, too. So how can you reconnect with your partner when you’re not in the mood?

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Vaginal dryness

What happens when you really, really want sex but you just can't get wet? No matter what you or your partner does, your vagina remains dry as a bone. It may be awkward, embarrassing and worrying, but it's also perfectly normal to experience a dry spell at some point in your life. Vaginal dryness has all kinds of physiological and psychological causes, as female hormones fluctuate frequently—especially estrogen, the key player in keeping you wet. While you can still have a satisfying sex life without producing natural lubrication, identifying the root cause of your vaginal dryness could lift the lid on your overall well-being.

Huffington Post

Make your wedding guest list drama-free.

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Who To Invite And Who To Leave Out. Organising a wedding is meant to be one of the most exciting (albeit expensive) times of your life. But it can also be stressful when some family and friends don’t see eye-to-eye, and long-standing feuds and individual personality clashes are likely to be exacerbated by hours of drinking and heightened emotions. We asked relationship experts how far wedding etiquette should go when it comes to dictating your guest list – a question that arguably feels somewhat more urgent when you’re paying for everyone’s dinner.

Stylist Magazine

It’s time to talk about sexual incompatibility

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Evolutionary psychologists have posited that we might experience sexual clashes with people whose genetic complexes are discordant to our own, because it affects the ability of us and our potential offspring to fight disease.But often, incompatibility comes down to a contrast in sexual tastes and appetites – most notably, a mismatch in libidos. Data from Natsal, the British National Surveys of Sexual Attitudes and Lifestyles (one of the broadest and most detailed scientific studies of its kind worldwide) indicates one in four UK couples are imbalanced in their desire for sex.

Scarlet Ladies

Navigating long-distance relationships

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Long-distance relationships are a little bit easier to navigate now a days with the blessing of high-speed internet and mobile phones. There is no need to be throwing away money on expensive calls or waiting weeks for a letter. With this in mind-long-distance relationship quality does not have to be significantly different from ones close by.

However, in reality, relationships take work, and with the strain of long-distance, that stress can be amplified. The inability to have date nights, days out or physical touch can be incredibly hard. In this article I have some tips on how you can maintain the spark even from a distance.

Scarlet Ladies

The rise of Labiaplasty

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With the recent release of Laura Dodsworth’s book, ‘Womanhood; the bare reality’. I thought it would be a good time to talk about Labiaplasty; what it is and why it’s on the rise. Labiaplasty is the most common form of female genital cosmetic surgery and involves surgical reduction of the Labia minora (the inner lips of the vulva). You may also know it by a few different names: “vulva reshaping”, “vulva and vaginal rejuvenation”, “designer vagina” and “the barbie doll”…yes “the barbie doll!”  

Labia minora surgery was first documented in 1976, but it was not until the 2000s that the surgery gained popularity. In the UK the demand for labiaplasty has increased more than three-fold from 2000 to 2014.

Scarlet Ladies

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What is Female Orgasmic Disorder (FOD)?

Tv, movies, porn, magazine articles, tend give the message that orgasms are the pinnacle of sexual excitement, and that unless you climax you’re not having great sex. Well I call bullshit! Orgasms are unique and individual: One person may climax from the touch of their nipples, another might need a lot of time and clitoral play and one person may struggle to orgasm at all.  In this piece I want to focus on those who struggle with orgasms. This is called Female Orgasmic Disorder (FOD) and research shows that 43% of women report some degree of difficulty reaching orgasm. This can often lead to feelings of isolation, frustration and distress.

Gal Pal

Debunking masturbation taboos

“The process of understanding how you can bring your body pleasure is an incredibly empowering experience.” I spoke to @galpaluk who are on a mission to bust myths and tackle taboos around how masturbation helps you to get to know your body...and how toys can assist you in doing just that!

Huffington Post

Chemsex Comedown: The Rise In People Seeking Therapy For 'Sober Sex’

Aoife Drury says; chemsex is a “perfect storm”, offering an escape for people finding it hard to deal with their sexual identity, with stigma or with homophobia, internalised or otherwise – but then leaving them with no framework or coping mechanism without the drugs. Some people may have been rejected, either by their family or friends when they came out; perhaps they were from a religious background.

Scarlet Ladies

The Magic of Fantasies

Sexual fantasies are a normal, integral part of the daily lives. Fantasies can greatly range from sex with an intimate partner, group sex, loving sex and violent sex. Sexual fantasies are defined as, “any erotic or sexually arousing mental imagery that a person has while awake. It can be an elaborate story, or it can be a fleeting thought of some sexual activity” (Hicks and Leitenberg, 2001) So it really is quite broad, fantasies are whatever your mind can conjure up!

Vibes Week

Trauma and self-care

Central to the experience of trauma is helplessness, isolation and the feelings of the loss of control. In this first part of a two piece article, I discuss #selfcare in trauma recovery. More often than not, looking after your basic needs is the first thing to go while struggling to overcome and recover from trauma. In the aftermath of a traumatic experience, strategies for self care can massively assist with the recovery process.

Trauma; seeking support.

Following my last piece that focused on how to involve self-care following a trauma. This article is shining a spotlight on the ways in which you can seek outside support. A way by which you can gradually recover from your experience. In general recovery is the ability to live in the present without being overwhelmed by the thoughts and feelings of the past.

Scarlet Ladies

More than one way to be turned on.

When it comes to female sexuality it’s all about desire and arousal. The issue for many women is the misunderstanding between desire and arousal. Being aroused is one thing, but knowing what triggers or maintains your arousal is another. What is important to note is that arousal and desire are not one in the same.…