Huffington Post

Chemsex Comedown: What's Behind The Rise In People Seeking Therapy For 'Sober Sex’

Aoife Drury says; chemsex is a “perfect storm”, offering an escape for people finding it hard to deal with their sexual identity, with stigma or with homophobia, internalised or otherwise – but then leaving them with no framework or coping mechanism without the drugs. Some people may have been rejected, either by their family or friends when they came out; perhaps they were from a religious background.

Scarlet Ladies

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The Magic of Fantasies

Sexual fantasies are a normal, integral part of the daily lives. Fantasies can greatly range from sex with an intimate partner, group sex, loving sex and violent sex. Sexual fantasies are defined as, “any erotic or sexually arousing mental imagery that a person has while awake. It can be an elaborate story, or it can be a fleeting thought of some sexual activity” (Hicks and Leitenberg, 2001) So it really is quite broad, fantasies are whatever your mind can conjure up!

Vibes Week

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Trauma and Self-care

Central to the experience of trauma is helplessness, isolation and the feelings of the loss of control. In this first part of a two piece article, I discuss #selfcare in trauma recovery. More often than not, looking after your basic needs is the first thing to go while struggling to overcome and recover from trauma. In the aftermath of a traumatic experience, strategies for self care can massively assist with the recovery process.

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Trauma-Seeking Support

Following my last piece that focused on how to involve self-care following a trauma. This article is shining a spotlight on the ways in which you can seek outside support. A way by which you can gradually recover from your experience. In general recovery is the ability to live in the present without being overwhelmed by the thoughts and feelings of the past.


Scarlet Ladies

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Different Types of Arousal

When it comes to female sexuality it’s all about desire and arousal. The issue for many women is the misunderstanding between desire and arousal. Being aroused is one thing, but knowing what triggers or maintains your arousal is another. What is important to note is that arousal and desire are not one in the same.…

We are Human Counselling

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Overcoming Differences in Libido

More often than not our libidos are mismatched with our partner. Differences in sexual desire within couples are very common, in this short article I discuss ways to tackle this issue that can result in so much resentment and anxiety. A great starting point is removing the pressure of physical intimacy and focusing on building emotional connection can be a great starting point. This can alleviate the growing frustration between partners.

Scarlet Ladies

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Navigating Low Libido at Christmas.


Stress can affect us in a variety of different ways including appetite, lack of sleep and of course our libido! When it comes to sex, stress makes your sex life suffer. Developing tools and techniques that can be used to ease the burden will not only help alleviate stress but also improve your libido. In this article I look at ways to avoid stress taking over your desire during the holiday season.

Vibes Week

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Sexual Desires and Communication

When I see couples, irrespective to what they present with, I work on their communication. Most of us listen to reply, rather than to hear. We want to express our opinions and emotions, to have our voice heard. With sex communication can be tricky, we tend to feel awkward and therefore avoid the topic, or we can end up arguing.

Scarlet Ladies

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Ghosting and its effect on mental health

Ghosting is defined as ‘ending a relationship by ignoring all communication from the other person.’ From WhatsApp's little blue ticks to Facebook’s time stamp, it is now painfully obvious when you’re being ignored. 74% of people I surveyed for this article stated that they have been ghosted with 23% saying that they have been ghosted more than 3 times. This takes a toll on mental well-being with sadness (60%) and decreasing self-esteem (67%). Coping with the end of a relationship is never an easy process. But when you’re ghosted, it’s more difficult to process.
My article outlines why people ghost, what is the consequence to mental health and how you can support yourself if you've been effected.

Vibes Week

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What is normal?

What does it even mean to be “normal”?

Who gets to decide?

The problem originates with the word itself. It’s problematic across all human behaviour. We know that of the more than 7 billion people on the planet no two are the same so quite how the term ‘normal’ can apply is beyond me.

Elite Daily

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6 Signs your relationship can’t be fixed

Accepting that a relationship you so desperately want just isn't working out may easily be one of the most difficult things ever. You think about all the good times you've spent with this person, all the happiness they've brought you, the immense love you have for each other, and you'd do anything to make it work. But sometimes it just doesn't, and that can be incredibly frustrating and disheartening, especially if you don't know why or how it even got to that un-fixable point.

Vaginismus Network

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Vaginismus; One Size Does Not Fit All-

I wrote a piece for The Vaginismus Network on how Vaginismus is different for everyone.
The Vaginismus Network is a fantastic community for those battling with the condition to come together and connect. It provides a education, insight and guidance so that you don't need to feel alone.

Scarlet Ladies

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Debunking rape myths

Sexual assault immense level of trauma. Victims endure the immediate physical and mental trauma of the actual event as well as many ongoing psychological challenges. As if these challenges aren't enough, a strong and significant stigma of being raped persists. Victims must deal with added shame, arising from the stigma-laden reactions.

Reflective Magazine

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Talking porn

‘Porn’s impact on relationship is dependent on the relationship it’s used in. When a couple have a healthy and happy sex life porn can be a great tool in providing experimentation, connection and variation. However, couples who have issues with trust, self-esteem, trauma or sexual issues, porn should best be avoided.’

The Metro

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Sexual performances in young men

A study has revealed that 36% of young men between the ages of 16 and 24 have experienced sexual performance problems in the last year. The figures are higher for men between 25 and 34, with nearly 40% of those surveyed admitting to having issues in bedroom.


Counsellors Cafe

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The big ‘o’

There was a time where women were ignored by clinicians or would take for granted that they could not orgasm. Most of this was due to the fact that women, unlike men, do not need to climax in order to conceive. This piece isn’t about multiple orgasms, it’s about the women who struggle to have any. I want to let you know that you are not alone and that there is support. Women are entitled to not only enjoy sex but to climax also