Baby In The Middle

Becoming a parent is one of the biggest obstacles to maintaining a satisfying sex life, says renowned Belgian-American psychotherapist Esther Perel.“Sex makes babies, but babies spell erotic disaster for couples,” says Perel in a Ted talk watched by more than 20m people.Margaret*, a 39-year-old mother of three under five, agrees. “My husband and I used to have a very active sex life,” she says. “We have three beautiful children to show for it. But these days, it’s harder and harder to find the time. We’re both working. The youngest still wakes at night. The oldest is an early riser and is usually in our room at the crack of dawn. I just don’t know where we’re supposed to fit it in.”