"They are damaged", "I'm messed up", "there is something wrong with me"; are just some of the sentences I hear regularly. Mental illness, trauma, a dysfunction, a break up...whatever is causing you pain, does not equate to being broken. The language that we use towards ourselves and others perpetuate stigma and shame. So choose your words carefully. And give yourself/that person; time, patience and compassion instead. Which are vital ingredients to facilitate healing.