As we go through life we discover new ways to cope and protect ourselves from threats that can be linked to our younger years. For example; children with aggressive parents may as adults be submissive and conflict-avoidance, as their body remembers how they used to be overwhelmed when trying to fight back with parents. These are called "protective and safety behaviours". These behaviours are often rapidly activated. Despite the challenges and undesired consequences they may cause, it's important to note that these behaviours are absolutely not our fault and are incredibly understandable.