Just Between Us Podcast

The quiet reason couples stop having sex and how to fix it.

If you’re in a long-term relationship, you might know that dreaded feeling of starting to feel more like housemates than partners. The love is there. The commitment is there. But the spark? The excitement, the sex drive, the anticipation? Somewhere between work stress, kids, tiredness and Netflix, it can quietly drift off.

This week on Just Between Us, Jennifer is joined by psychosexual and relationship therapist Aoife Drury to unpack what really happens beyond the honeymoon phase. They talk about why desire changes, how intimacy gets lost in the noise of everyday life, and why so many couples struggle to even begin the conversation when sex starts to feel different.

Aoife explains why intimacy is about much more than what happens in the bedroom, how digital distraction affects connection, and why foreplay can sometimes become a loaded, pressurised word instead of something playful and enjoyable. They also explore the common dynamic of one partner becoming the pursuer and the other the distancer, and why that can leave couples stuck in a cycle of pressure, avoidance and hurt.

The episode also gets into feeling “touched out,” love languages, how to start difficult conversations without blame, and why sexual problems are rarely just one person’s issue to fix. From hand-holding and back rubs to date nights, breathwork and yes, even scheduling sex, this is a grounded, reassuring conversation about rebuilding intimacy in real life.