Our shadow self

As individuals we are complex and multifaceted. We are not one entity. We are made up of multiple parts. Loving yourself means all parts of yourself. This includes parts that are connected with shame, disgust or hatred surrounding ourselves. In psychology we tend to refer to this as our "shadow-self"; Carl Jung spoke openly about it. The shadow part can lie in the unconscious, it's often a part that we dismiss or minimise about ourselves. Parts we perhaps perceive as being dark and weak. When we hide or deny parts of ourselves, they do not disappear, instead they grow stronger. As a result we allow low self-esteem and self-worth to prosper, ultimately resulting in projection and blame. Learning to show acceptance, compassion and forgiveness are really wonderful ways to heal and begin the journey to self-love.