Body Image and Sex

As we now live in the digital world, we are more saturated than ever with unrealistic beauty standards and body ideals, from the filters put on automatically, access to diet culture norms and, with the ease of a button we can punish ourselves through the comparison game. It can just seem like there is no escape. Where may that play out the most? When we are naked and vulnerable. Resulting in us spectatoring/self-surveillance when having sex. Trying to make the shift from performative sex towards pleasurable sexual starts outside of "the bedroom."

A tool I love is adding "isn't it fascinating/interesting/amazing?" So for example: "I have stretch marks...ISN'T THAT FASCINATING" if you hear yourself being negative. Language is powerful and this discourse disrupts the cycle alongside provoking curiosity.

Body love is wonderful, but to get to that point we have to start with body neutrality. As my previous post says, time, patience, practice and self-compassion.

Some of my favourite books are: 'My body is not an Apology' 'Be your own Best Friend' ' and 'You have the Right to Remain Fat', 'Better Sex Through Mindfulness,' 'Body Positive Power'