Drury Therapy

Psychosexual and Relationship Therapy

Intimacy in older years


Intimacy and connection are just as important in later life as they are in younger years.The need for intimacy is ageless and you can enjoy sex for as long as you would like.
That being said, there are many biological changes that occur as a result of getting older, which may create changes in our sex lives and influence how we feel about ourselves and our body.
With men, testosterone levels gradually decline throughout adulthood; about 1% each year after age 30 on average. There are also changes in penile distensibility this means it may take longer to achieve full erections or be maintained. There can also changes in muscle contractions which can effect orgasmic and ejaculatory experiences.
For women decreases in estrogen may lead to vaginal dryness and painful penetration alongside slower sexual arousal.
Finally, any condition that affects your general health could also affect your sexual health. Specifically illnesses that involve the cardiovascular system, diabetes or hormonal problems that may increase with age. These can result in challenges to being sexually active.
None of these physiological changes can't be assisted and alleviated with medication, patience and communication.
Actually, the great thing is that sex can actually get better with age! With years of getting to know your body, no longer having some of the old and stressful distractions (such as work or raising children) and, if you're in a relationship; better knowledge of your partner. Adapting, expanding your mindset and communicating means sex never has to stop!