Milestones are whatever you want them to be!

Celebrating milestones is significant in healing trauma, however, you don't have to wait until a certain time or occasions in order to do so. The fact that you are here and present is reason enough. You can celebrate as often as you want and any way that feels best for you. It has been shown that the nervous system can settle during times of trauma-healing when accomplishments are celebrated. Alongside this, it has been known to develop resilience. So, revel in the simple things; getting out of bed, leaving the house, talking through something difficult with your therapist-whatever feels right to you.
The celebration doesn’t mean popping a bottle of prosecco or writing a Facebook status (though if that is what you want, fire away!) There are lots of ways to can reward yourself subtly. Here are some of the ways I think are useful:
1. Reflection: Taking note of what you have been through and what you have just accomplished. Whether that is lying in bed or during a therapy session.
2. Being present: Some mindfulness or journaling. Maybe even going for a walk and revelling in your achievement/s.
3. Nurturing yourself: A bath, your favourite movie, a big slice of chocolate cake etc (though I encourage you to do these anyway!)
4. Self-compassion: Kind words, gentle words, positive affirmations. I have this habit of doing a small smile when nobody is watching, it always picks up my mood! By smiling, you are signalling the emotional centres of your brain and promotes the release of dopamine, serotonin and endorphins through your bloodstream. Ultimately releasing tension.