Make your wedding guest list drama-free.
Who To Invite And Who To Leave Out. Organising a wedding is meant to be one of the most exciting (albeit expensive) times of your life. But it can also be stressful when some family and friends don’t see eye-to-eye, and long-standing feuds and individual personality clashes are likely to be exacerbated by hours of drinking and heightened emotions. We asked relationship experts how far wedding etiquette should go when it comes to dictating your guest list – a question that arguably feels somewhat more urgent when you’re paying for everyone’s dinner.
It’s time to talk about sexual incompatibility
Evolutionary psychologists have posited that we might experience sexual clashes with people whose genetic complexes are discordant to our own, because it affects the ability of us and our potential offspring to fight disease.But often, incompatibility comes down to a contrast in sexual tastes and appetites – most notably, a mismatch in libidos. Data from Natsal, the British National Surveys of Sexual Attitudes and Lifestyles (one of the broadest and most detailed scientific studies of its kind worldwide) indicates one in four UK couples are imbalanced in their desire for sex.
Navigating long-distance relationships
Long-distance relationships are a little bit easier to navigate now a days with the blessing of high-speed internet and mobile phones. There is no need to be throwing away money on expensive calls or waiting weeks for a letter. With this in mind-long-distance relationship quality does not have to be significantly different from ones close by.
However, in reality, relationships take work, and with the strain of long-distance, that stress can be amplified. The inability to have date nights, days out or physical touch can be incredibly hard. In this article I have some tips on how you can maintain the spark even from a distance.
Overcoming Libido differences
More often than not our libidos are mismatched with our partner. Differences in sexual desire within couples are very common, in this short article I discuss ways to tackle this issue that can result in so much resentment and anxiety. A great starting point is removing the pressure of physical intimacy and focusing on building emotional connection can be a great starting point. This can alleviate the growing frustration between partners.
Sex culture and confidence
“If what you’re doing makes you feel good, and you’re consenting, then remove all judgement. But if your thoughts or actions come from a place of pain or unhappiness, then critical analysis of your sexual experiences is healthy. This encourages acceptance, open conversation, and diversity.”
Ghosting and its effect on mental health
Ghosting is defined as ‘ending a relationship by ignoring all communication from the other person.’ From WhatsApp's little blue ticks to Facebook’s time stamp, it is now painfully obvious when you’re being ignored. 74% of people I surveyed for this article stated that they have been ghosted with 23% saying that they have been ghosted more than 3 times. This takes a toll on mental well-being with sadness (60%) and decreasing self-esteem (67%). Coping with the end of a relationship is never an easy process. But when you’re ghosted, it’s more difficult to process.
My article outlines why people ghost, what is the consequence to mental health and how you can support yourself if you've been effected.
Signs you are ready to be official
‘It's important not to confuse this readiness for something more with loneliness or boredom. Getting into relationships for the wrong reason is never a good idea and you'll only end up hurting yourself (and your partner) in the long run.’
6 Signs your relationship can’t be fixed
Accepting that a relationship you so desperately want just isn't working out may easily be one of the most difficult things ever. You think about all the good times you've spent with this person, all the happiness they've brought you, the immense love you have for each other, and you'd do anything to make it work. But sometimes it just doesn't, and that can be incredibly frustrating and disheartening, especially if you don't know why or how it even got to that un-fixable point.
